The Most Complex of Relationships: Mother and Daughter

The mother-daughter relationship is the most complex relationship there is. Laden with extreme highs and extreme lows, mothers and daughters tend to be very close and constantly in conflict. In Deborah Tannen’s best-selling book, You’re Wearing That?, she explores the mother-daughter interactions that seem to baffle so many. The question is, how is it that two people can love each other so deeply but still continue to misread each other’s intentions? Mothers and daughters speak more harshly to one another and more kindly to than anyone else. Regardless of the reason, it’s clear this is a valuable relationship worth thinking about.

The more a daughter knows the details of her mother’s life . . . the stronger the daughter.
Anita Diamant

Mother and daughter got on very well indeed, with a deep affection founded on almost complete misunderstanding.
Mary Stewart

Ah, how quickly the hands on the clock circle toward the future we thought was far away! And how soon we become our mothers.
Peggy Toney Horton

I think about following her, but I want to give Zoe a minute alone with her mother. I want them to have the shift and redistribution of their relationship that I never got to have with my own mom, that acrobatic feat of love where everything is turned upside down and yet they are both still able to keep their balance.
Jodi Picoult

Daughter, I want you to form the most intense, loving relationship with yourself. Only then will you realize your capacity for kindness and emotional expansiveness. Daughter, after you have formed this relationship with yourself, I want you to love others with the openness and humility that you always embodied as a child. Daughter, I want you to forgive easily, laugh loudly and never allow yourself to become the invisible, silent woman that your mother was. Daughter, this is how we soften our hearts and become better human beings.
Diriye Osman

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